Living on Long Island, NY one of the biggest perks (besides of course the exorbitant taxes and insane traffic) are the beaches. We have some of the most beautiful beaches in the world. And although it truly is a long island, stretching some 75 miles or so from west to east, it is actually quite narrow. Traversing it from north to south is pretty easy - about 40 to 60 minutes by car from shore to shore.
And each shore has its own unique beauty and charm.
A huge window shattered in my kitchen yesterday. We had actually discovered it a few days ago when I pulled up the blind. It had remained in tact but every inch was in pieces. It was actually really beautiful! We went about finding someone to fix it but our search got stalled as we waited for responses. No big deal. Like a politician addressing the debt crisis, I just put the blind back down and forgot about it.
Crisis Magazine has published an article I have written and have posted it on their website.
It's an important piece that addresses the LGBTQ "bullying" going on today but from a personal and unique perspective.
Check this article out and share with those you feel might benefit from reading it.
Most baby boomers will remember the famous line from the movie “Love Story” in the 70s: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry”. Like so many popular catchphrases it sounded really great on the surface. If you love someone you will never hurt them and hence, never need to apologize. But as we contemplate that more deeply, it’s a line and an attitude that, in my humble opinion, has actually been rather damaging.
I remember a session with a client who had recounted a horrifying “vacation” with family. Dealing with her over-controlling mother, tension with the step father and a fussy baby had transformed a one week vacation into 3 weeks of purgatory. I was really able to relate.
Been there. Done that. Not fun.
When summer vacation or holidays come around, and especially for those who have families in other states, it’s often expected to spend your vacation time visiting them…or having them visit you. Seems logical.
It's not easy being a young woman these days. Dealing with a teenage daughter can be a very painful challenge for many dads. I grew up with one sister, my mom, and my dad. Translate: Three women, one man. Poor dad was outnumbered. He learned - for his own survival - that estrogen could be a life threatening toxin if not handled properly and to NEVER leave the toilet seat up. (I still can’t believe anybody does that!)
All relationships and families go through difficult times and experiencing occasional problems and conflict in personal relationships is normal. However, sometimes these problems can become overwhelming.
Perhaps you need some ways to deal with a difficult family member. If you are experiencing a problematic and challenging relationship with your spouse, children, or other family member there are some solutions on how to deal with these family issues.
Have you ever bought a new car? You start looking around and researching models until you find “the one”- the perfect car, the one that has everything you’ve been dreaming about- a unique beauty. Once you’ve decided and start getting excited a curious thing happens…you suddenly start seeing them everywhere. Whereas a month ago no one seemed to have been driving “your car”, now everyone seems to be in on your secret and they’re all over the road.
A similar phenomenon happens in psychology.
Well, that seems to be the prevalent attitude these days. Men let you down. They only want one thing. They don’t listen, they don’t show emotions and they don’t do anything that a woman can’t do. Worst of all, they make more money than women!
Hmmm…sound familiar? And we’re not just talking about secular society… regrettably we see this attitude in the Church as well. Many women have bought into it, consciously or unconsciously. Even more amazing is how many men have gone along as well.
I remember a couple I saw many years ago. They were married one year and I was their fourth marriage counselor. After the first session it didn’t look good- they were quite a challenge. But, never one to flee a challenge I decided I’d give it time and see what we could do.
They were tough! Many sessions were ping pong matches, with words, insults and complaints hurled back and forth with me barely able to get a word in edgewise.