I remember a session with a client who had recounted a horrifying “vacation” with family. Dealing with her over-controlling mother, tension with the step father and a fussy baby had transformed a one week vacation into 3 weeks of purgatory. I was really able to relate.
Been there. Done that. Not fun.
When summer vacation or holidays come around, and especially for those who have families in other states, it’s often expected to spend your vacation time visiting them…or having them visit you. Seems logical.
It's not easy being a young woman these days. Dealing with a teenage daughter can be a very painful challenge for many dads. I grew up with one sister, my mom, and my dad. Translate: Three women, one man. Poor dad was outnumbered. He learned - for his own survival - that estrogen could be a life threatening toxin if not handled properly and to NEVER leave the toilet seat up. (I still can’t believe anybody does that!)
All relationships and families go through difficult times and experiencing occasional problems and conflict in personal relationships is normal. However, sometimes these problems can become overwhelming.
Perhaps you need some ways to deal with a difficult family member. If you are experiencing a problematic and challenging relationship with your spouse, children, or other family member there are some solutions on how to deal with these family issues.
Have you ever bought a new car? You start looking around and researching models until you find “the one”- the perfect car, the one that has everything you’ve been dreaming about- a unique beauty. Once you’ve decided and start getting excited a curious thing happens…you suddenly start seeing them everywhere. Whereas a month ago no one seemed to have been driving “your car”, now everyone seems to be in on your secret and they’re all over the road.
A similar phenomenon happens in psychology.
Well, that seems to be the prevalent attitude these days. Men let you down. They only want one thing. They don’t listen, they don’t show emotions and they don’t do anything that a woman can’t do. Worst of all, they make more money than women!
Hmmm…sound familiar? And we’re not just talking about secular society… regrettably we see this attitude in the Church as well. Many women have bought into it, consciously or unconsciously. Even more amazing is how many men have gone along as well.
I remember a couple I saw many years ago. They were married one year and I was their fourth marriage counselor. After the first session it didn’t look good- they were quite a challenge. But, never one to flee a challenge I decided I’d give it time and see what we could do.
They were tough! Many sessions were ping pong matches, with words, insults and complaints hurled back and forth with me barely able to get a word in edgewise.
When Pope Benedict announced his retirement the Catholic world was abuzz. I wrote “Be Careful You Don’t Become the Next Pope” in response to what I saw were astounding displays of fear and pride. Many pledged to “police” his every word and action and boy, they’ve been true to their promise!
What occurs to me is this: As Christians we are a family. The Pope is our Holy Father and the Church our mother.
The glory of Easter morning! The horrific events of the crucifixion are eclipsed by joy, disbelief and astounding glory. He is risen. Truly risen. He has conquered death and with it, all sins that lead to death. We are saved. We are set free. It’s REALITY! The God who IS reality, “I AM” has told us, has proven Himself through His cross and resurrection.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2
Intentions, by definition, are: the things that you plan to do or achieve; an aim or a purpose.
These could be good or bad intentions just like anything else. By choosing positive intentions, with a positive mindset, we feel most in line with our purpose for the world and for the greater good. Plus, it just feels good!
Sometimes it’s seems hard to be an American Catholic. The Church preaches the Cross and the Constitution preaches our right to pursue happiness. How do we reconcile the two? It’s a challenge. Let’s face it, living here in the U.S., it’s hard to avoid the bombardment of enticements for the latest toys, pleasures and conveniences. They’re attractive, after all. And having human emotions we are naturally attracted to all that’s good, beautiful and true. Pictures of that Caribbean beach vacation package are going to get our attention, especially this year as we experience the coldest temperatures on record.