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Planning a Better Breakup from the Beginning

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | March 04, 2015 | Comments

Planning a Better Breakup from the Beginning

In no area of life do we experience more pain than when it comes to broken relationships. Obviously an equally heart wrenching experience is losing a loved one through death. The pain of divorce, though, can often be more devastating and lead to longer term stress. Even the break up of romantic non-marital relationships can take a heavy toll.

There’s nothing worse than running into and “ex” with whom you had a bad ending. It’s awkward. It can be painful. But it doesn’t have to be. Imagine running into an ex without all that angst?

Fifty Shades of What?!

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | February 16, 2015 | Comments

Fifty Shades of What?!

 

I don’t know about you, but the hype for this movie really gets me going.

 

Check out my guest blog in The National Catholic Register:
Fifty Shades of Psychologically Imprudent, Self-Defeating and Out of Touch with Reality

Get in on the conversation. Would love to hear your views!

Relationships: Getting Them Right

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | February 11, 2015 | Comments

Relationships: Getting Them Right

I remember reading a great book by Harville Hendrix years ago, Getting the Love You Want. The point he made so well was that we tend to marry our lost self - that part of ourselves that may have gone underground because of past wounds from our childhood. He also made the point that whatever mistakes may be made in a first marriage, these tend to be repeated in the second. The underlying reason is the unconscious motivations that lead us to choose the partners that we do. Tragically many divorces could be avoided if we understood this.

Superdad XLIX

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | February 04, 2015 | Comments

Superdad XLIX

Well, here’s something I never thought I’d write about: The Super Bowl. My history with it has been uneven, at best. I used to see it as a great time to get out with my girlfriends. Restaurants and movie theatres were empty - the world was my oyster! Then I graduated to the Super Bowl party - the great post holiday excuse to see friends, eat lots of junk, and break up the monotony of winter. Now it’s more sedate as my honey actually likes to watch the game and not be distracted by the party. My constant questions like “Are you rooting for the blue guys?” and “Why is everyone screaming?” are distractions enough.

A Year’s Supply of Eskimo Pies

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | January 28, 2015 | Comments

A Year’s Supply of Eskimo Pies

Remember the consolation prize? You picked the wrong door on Let’s Make a Deal and instead of a new car or an all expense paid trip to Hawaii you got a year's supply of Eskimo pies or Rice-a-Roni - the San Francisco treat. Always made me wonder how consoling such prizes actually were!

(And, what IS the average daily requirement of Eskimo pies?)

Hurt by an Abortion You Didn’t Have?

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | January 21, 2015 | Comments

Hurt by an Abortion You Didn’t Have?

In the abortion debates that have gone on for over four decades in America, there are an awful lot of assumptions that are made. The first one being that a woman has a right to choose abortion to avoid ruining her life by having an unplanned child. Without critical thought, such an argument seems to make sense…but only with the false assumption that an abortion helps the woman in the long run. Mounds of evidence refute this. Interestingly, a woman who had an abortion in the past is as much as six times more likely to join a pro-life group in the future.

Aim Higher In Your Relationships

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | January 15, 2015 | Comments

Aim Higher In Your Relationships

Relationships can be so wonderful and life giving. God designed it that way. We are literally made for relationships - with Him and with one another. One of the mistakes that we make though is believing that a relationship can “complete” us. If we meet the right person then we can finally be whole and happy. Well, there’s some truth to that.  When our significant other has qualities that we don’t have, as a unit we can be more effective and experience greater joys…depending on those differences, of course.

The “To-Don’t” List

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | January 03, 2015 | Comments

The “To-Don’t” List

Ah, it’s a new year and time to set our resolutions of all the good things we would like to do and all the bad things we would like to stop doing. But New Year’s resolutions have become almost cliché. So many jokes are made about giving up on those resolutions by the middle of January that it may make you feel almost silly to even admit that you made any.

I find a similar phenomenon when it comes to my to-do list and my list of goals.

What Do You Want for Christmas?

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | December 10, 2014 | Comments

What Do You Want for Christmas?

As Advent begins our thoughts often turn to the gifts we’re hoping to receive and what gifts to get for loved ones.  It can be quite a challenge.  But how often do we think of the real gifts that we should be asking for?

As I meditate on the Rosary mysteries throughout the year, I usually preface each decade by asking for a virtue associated with that mystery.  For instance, for the Resurrection I ask for Faith and for the Ascension- Hope.  I’m not original…got it from a rosary prayer meditation guide years ago.

But when it comes to the Birth of Jesus, I get very bold and ask for 3 virtues.

Are Sexual Sins the Worst Ones?

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | November 24, 2014 | Comments

Are Sexual Sins the Worst Ones?

In 24 years I’ve seen a lot of clients, mostly Catholic and Christian. And because I am a specifically Catholic therapist (ie. I integrate the faith into the process and follow the teachings of the Church), many of the clients I see will discuss their troubles not only from a psychological point of view but from a spiritual perspective as well. Many seek therapy because they are troubled by past sins and in some cases, present sins from which they cannot seem to break free.

Dealing With Turkeys - At The Table....

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | November 19, 2014 | Comments

Dealing With Turkeys - At The Table....

Let’s face it…this “season of joy” is often a season of stress, angst and irritation. Families can be wonderful but there’s usually one or two that challenge even the most Christian among us.

Here are some tips:

Why Pray?

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | November 12, 2014 | Comments

Why Pray?

There’s a question for you!  Why pray?  It seems obvious.  We pray because we want something and we think that God can give it to us.  That’s probably why most people pray.  But could it be there’s more to it?

The thing that used to really confuse me about prayer was this addendum…to ask for what we want but with the stipulation “If it’s Your will”.  Hmmm…if it’s God’s will, won’t it happen anyway?

If A Blessing Falls On A Negative Person, Does It Make A Sound?

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | October 28, 2014 | Comments

If A Blessing Falls On A Negative Person, Does It Make A Sound?

We all want God’s blessings in our lives.  At least we claim to want them. Those struggling with more than their fair share of misfortune especially pray for God to intervene and make things better.  And well we should…Jesus tells us to pray persistently and unceasingly.  And yet, for some it seems their prayers go unanswered.  Year after year they struggle with faith, hoping against hope that God will finally come through, seemingly to no avail.

Reeling After the Synod?

By David F. Prosen,LMHC | October 22, 2014 | 1 Comment

Reeling After the Synod?

What a whirlwind it has been with the reports of the Synod over the past week!

And now that the first part of the Synod has come to a close… I can’t help but notice all the confusion that has set in! The media is now bombarding us with article titles such as “Bishops Scrap Welcome to Gays” and “Catholic Synod: Pope Francis setback on gay policy”.

Behavioral and Mental Health Issues

By Allison Ricciardi, LMHC | October 10, 2014 | Comments

Mental Health Awareness Week: October 5th -11th

Behavioral and Mental Health Issues

Audio of Allison Ricciardi, LMHC on Relevant Radio's 'The Drew Mariani Show'  on the topic: Behavioral and Mental Health Issues

In 1990, the U.S. Congress established the first full week of October as 'Mental Illness Awareness Week' (MIAW).

Listen as Allison discusses why a good model of mental health must necessarily include the spiritual aspect of the human person and that goal of psychotherapy is to re-integrate man as a complete physical, rational, emotional and spiritual being.

 

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